tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.comments2012-06-15T19:44:16.920-07:00Loving From the Inside OutConniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-83011807029629626042012-06-15T05:55:46.928-07:002012-06-15T05:55:46.928-07:00That's the spirit.That's the spirit.Masquerade Crewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08561517969693391881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-16471197883786895772012-04-29T15:13:46.166-07:002012-04-29T15:13:46.166-07:00So sad. It sounds like you really loved and cared ...So sad. It sounds like you really loved and cared for him.<br /><br />When I used to do medical transcription work, the number people having myocardial infarctions from obesity was very high. Too, there were many other medically related problem due to morbid obesity.<br /><br />I believe that you will continue to love others regardless and that is very nice to know. I will follow your blog for what I expect to be an encouragement and a reminder to love others regardless.<br /><br />Thank you.Jeremy Bateshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00877532315856151843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-1977820880268815992012-04-24T13:44:00.568-07:002012-04-24T13:44:00.568-07:00Visiting from a to z.
I like your mission with yo...Visiting from a to z. <br />I like your mission with your blog.Andrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-61456408715707657282012-04-24T05:48:39.794-07:002012-04-24T05:48:39.794-07:00A good message for all of us! I'm trying to v...A good message for all of us! I'm trying to visit all the A-Z Challenge Blogs in April. My alphabet is at myqualityday.blogspot.comSharkbyteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10139935335209860357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-76465354779979921382012-04-19T10:53:37.079-07:002012-04-19T10:53:37.079-07:00Health is indeed wealth. you've a great blog a...Health is indeed wealth. you've a great blog and mission:)<br />Nutschell<br />www.thewritingnut.com<br />Happy A-Zing!nutschellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10967710710805174781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-13264339079836836592012-04-17T19:46:06.177-07:002012-04-17T19:46:06.177-07:00Karen,
Thanks so much. Best wishes to you and you...Karen,<br /><br />Thanks so much. Best wishes to you and your husband.Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-40262266019132924962012-04-17T07:09:13.560-07:002012-04-17T07:09:13.560-07:00He does look like a very sweet and kind person. Ho...He does look like a very sweet and kind person. How sad that you had to lose him. My husband is currently working very hard to lose weight as heart disease runs in his family. He's only 63 and has already outlived every male in his family.<br /><br />Nice to meet you, and I hope you're enjoying the Challenge.<br /><br />KarenG<br />A to Z Challenge HostKaren Jones Gowenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01153821980625034810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-45503968880333692462012-04-14T14:02:47.543-07:002012-04-14T14:02:47.543-07:00Thanks so much!Thanks so much!Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-53474713419212588552012-04-14T13:47:14.922-07:002012-04-14T13:47:14.922-07:00These are great little nuggets! (A-Z challenge) Yo...These are great little nuggets! (A-Z challenge) You have a gift of articulating those things beyond the shallow...thanks for sharing with us and spurring us all on to think outside of "self"!Sprinkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08349412291666115995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-16412276311807550812012-04-08T23:09:19.292-07:002012-04-08T23:09:19.292-07:00Connie, thank you for replying. As someone who is ...Connie, thank you for replying. As someone who is new to your blog, I really should have started out by saying how sorry I am for your loss. What a brave and kind venture you have taken on, to honor Ron's memory. <br /><br />I don't dispute that fatness can be the cause (or result) of medical problems, and I can absolutely understand how painful it would be for you to speculate on such matters on a personal level. The issue, really, is the assumptions that are made by health care professionals about fat people and their health, and the lack of respect given to us as patients, clients, and fellow human beings. As I said, I am encouraged that the Rudd Center is addressing this issue; I just wish they had addressed it better in some of the ways I listed above.<br /><br />So, yes, I'm with you on the respectful treatment of all! And I will eagerly follow your blog, now that I've discovered it. Thanks for doing what you do.nsvnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-22805459420167392272012-04-08T11:35:47.396-07:002012-04-08T11:35:47.396-07:00Thanks, Wendy!Thanks, Wendy!Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-58588305314176586682012-04-08T11:34:18.804-07:002012-04-08T11:34:18.804-07:00Thanks for the input. Honestly, I'm still lear...Thanks for the input. Honestly, I'm still learning about all of this myself, so I don't feel qualified to speak to your first 2 points, and I don't know where the Yale Rudd Center got their numbers. But I do know the Center recognizes other causes besides genetics; I think they're just not as focused on in this video. I encourage you to check out their website; there's tons of information on what they do and on their actual research: http://www.yaleruddcenter.org/.<br /><br />As to the language we should all use about it AND whether there are medical aspects (it's probably not possible to separate the two): As the survivor of one whose autopsy listed the cause of death as "morbid obesity leading to sudden heart failure," I have a hard time believing that obesity is not a medical condition and that it doesn't impact health, at least past a certain point. I mean, they weighed Ron's body in the autopsy, and it was FIVE HUNDRED and SEVENTY-FIVE pounds. I just can't believe that that had nothing to do with his overall health and his heart health in particular.<br /><br />Now, if I'm wrong, maybe medical bias played into the cause of death determination; I don't know. Frankly, I don't wish to dig up the autopsy report or try to talk to the medical examiner who wrote it. That's an emotional minefield I prefer to avoid.<br /><br />In the meantime, I will continue to advocate for the respectful treatment of all. I think we can all agree on that.Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-60705473276901321752012-04-08T08:38:51.380-07:002012-04-08T08:38:51.380-07:00It is encouraging to see research urging medical p...It is encouraging to see research urging medical professionals to examine and remedy their weight bias. And of course it's lovely to see Emme involved - how wonderful that she's continuing her career in this way. However, the video makes some assumptions that are questionable: 1. That the "obesity epidemic" in fact exists. Many critics have pointed out that obesity has not risen as dramatically as common wisdom would have one believe. We may well have a prevalence of bad nutrition and lack of exercise, but that is not the same thing. And in any case, it is a misuse of the term "epidemic" to apply it to a non-contagious condition. 2. That fat people do not in fact engage in healthy behaviors. If you believe that fat is not necessarily the result of poor nutrition and lack of exercise, why would you single out fat people for interrogation about these behaviors? The fat person in your exam room could easily be an athlete who grows all her own food. The thin person may well be a sedentary person who eats only fast food. 3. The lack of exploration of other causes of fatness, beyond genetics. Hormone disruption? Pollution? Stress caused by discrimination and inequality? We simply don't know, and it would be best if physicians could emphasize this to their patients.<br /><br />This video is a start, but even anti-obesity bias researchers need some refreshers. One can't expect health care providers to depart from the language of their profession, but anti-bias researchers might consider using the language of the fat acceptance movement: we are not "overweight" or "obese" or "morbidly obese" - we are FAT. That is a perfectly good descriptive word that does not imply pathology as the medical terminology does.nsvnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-1008696757501865112012-04-07T19:58:25.609-07:002012-04-07T19:58:25.609-07:00I think we notice when people treat us as equals s...I think we notice when people treat us as equals since not every one does of course. It's funny as I write this, they are advertising on t.v. an anniversary presentation of 'To Kill A Mockinbird." Atticus was talking to his daughter as if she were a rational human being. My dad did that. I think treating us girls and boys as equals was THE greatest gift he could ever have given us. Then in the commercial Atticus is reminding the courtroom that "All men are created equal." Talk about timing for this topic! And there are so many stereotypes out there that get used as sorting bins of inequality, gender-wise, geography-wise, faith-wise. You name it. Sadly.<br /><br />Very thoughtful post!wsbharkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12896808265604736376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-83600139324218840472012-04-06T08:01:56.580-07:002012-04-06T08:01:56.580-07:00Thanks so much, Tina!Thanks so much, Tina!Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-49560112198965321682012-04-06T05:59:34.537-07:002012-04-06T05:59:34.537-07:00What a great blog and what a great topic all aroun...What a great blog and what a great topic all around. It is so true, people need to be less judgemental and love people for who they are inside, that has always been my philosophy throughout my life so far but it is hard to sometimes convince others of that. Thank you so much for sharing and trying to change the world....I definitely will be back and read more as I can relate to a lot of it. Keep up the good work. :)Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05499341881273434041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-53201659855250504892012-04-04T17:46:33.147-07:002012-04-04T17:46:33.147-07:00Thank you, Francene!Thank you, Francene!Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-74401449858968833912012-04-04T06:41:31.633-07:002012-04-04T06:41:31.633-07:00You're so right about disregarding the outer s...You're so right about disregarding the outer skin and really loving the person inside. I'm sorry for your loss. However, you gained insight and motivation from this trial. Well done.Francene Stanleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08298485336064691700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-20967269639976803732012-04-03T18:48:21.571-07:002012-04-03T18:48:21.571-07:00Thanks so much, Heather!Thanks so much, Heather!Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-72718066134285768912012-04-03T17:17:12.615-07:002012-04-03T17:17:12.615-07:00What a beautiful post and a great tribute to your ...What a beautiful post and a great tribute to your fiance!Heather Murphyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11847855601653718033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-40368538260652203662012-01-05T09:52:16.523-08:002012-01-05T09:52:16.523-08:00I'm really concerned this is going to be a pro...I'm really concerned this is going to be a problem as I job hunt. I've got two strikes: I'm over-weight and over-fifty. I worry I won't find anything that will accept me. TACAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-55997674350851353412011-11-01T16:37:10.700-07:002011-11-01T16:37:10.700-07:00Of course that's OK! :) I'll contact you t...Of course that's OK! :) I'll contact you through FB (so you don't have to keep checking back here). And thank you for your sweet words about Ron!Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-88523046185665547332011-11-01T06:36:10.798-07:002011-11-01T06:36:10.798-07:00Hey Connie - I just read everything on your memori...Hey Connie - I just read everything on your memorial site for Ron. They say that the eyes are the window to the soul, and seeing these pictures of Ron, he looks just like the caring man you describe. I was wondering if I could share your story on my blog. I would do so by briefly describing how you connected to me through Jamie the very worst missionary, and then I would provide a link to your site. Is that okay with you?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-69749434443307471522011-10-25T20:18:51.028-07:002011-10-25T20:18:51.028-07:00I hear what you're saying and definitely agree...I hear what you're saying and definitely agree that, consciously or not (probably not, usually), people respond to how you appear to view yourself...as evidenced by how you present yourself to the world. And it does make sense to me that that happens. I'm not saying that one should set out to be, say, frumpy. In fact, in another post, <a href="http://lovingfromtheinsideout.blogspot.com/2010/03/does-appearance-matter-after-all.html" rel="nofollow">Does Appearance Matter After All?</a>, I addressed this very issue.Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732810192025570452.post-22922449914720662011-10-24T20:50:53.405-07:002011-10-24T20:50:53.405-07:00Niki, thank you!Niki, thank you!Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.com